We are privileged to have a beautiful Bromley wedding venue steeped in history, which is why when we get a couple that really want to respect the old-fashioned English wedding traditions then we are delighted.
A lot of brides do these traditions instinctively, without knowing any background on them. So we thought we would share with you the common traditions we see, and what they actually mean.
We all know the first one, that you shouldn’t see your spouse before the wedding, it is just seen as bad luck if you do. If you observe this tradition then not only will you have good luck, you’ll also create the perfect picture opportunity of the very first reactions of the brides and grooms as they see each other for the first time.
For the brides, the wearing of a veil over your face will protect you from evil spirits. If the marriage is an LGBTQ wedding you could either wear matching veils, or perhaps one of you could wear a hat with just a face veil, while your partner wears a more traditional full length.
The main tradition of course which most of us know is the following verse, but did you know there are 5 items to be included – most couples only know of the 4.
“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in your shoe.”
Let’s discover what each of these mean
Something Old: this is to ward off the Evil Eye which is thought to cause infertility
Something New: represents the optimism for the future
Something Borrowed: This is simply for good luck, by borrowing something of a happily married couple will mean some of their good fortune rubs off onto you.
Something Blue: again wards off the evil eye, but the colour blue also signifies love purity and fidelity, all important for a happy marriage
A silver sixpence in your shoe helps to bring wealth to you both
Now of course this tradition extends much further than the bride, 2 grooms could sport blue socks, or blue bow ties. Perhaps one of you could have the something borrowed whilst the other puts a sixpence in his or her shoe.
More shoe themed traditions include writing names on the sole of the brides’ shoe, the name that doesn’t rub off is the next in line to be wed. Also throwing garters and bouquets carry on this tradition of highlighting the next person to marry, whoever catches them will be in line!
Others believe that the time of year plays a part in a happy marriage.
“Marry in September’s shine, your living will be rich and fine.”
Actually, people believe that marrying between the harvest and Christmas was the luckiest time of year. This also lends itself to the throwing of the harvested wheat or rice over the couple after they have walked down the aisle. Of course, today we would throw petals or maybe rice, but it is simply a symbol of a shower of abundance and fertility.
..and finally the cutting of the cake, this is the first task a couple take together and highlights the togetherness of the marriage.
If you would like to carry some of these traditions into your wedding, as an LBGTQ friendly wedding venue we can help with ideas to modify them to suit your relationship and your day.
We’d love to be a part of it, with a historic backdrop, plenty of tradition, what’s not to love? Contact us today to see how we can help you.